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Crunch time- The first (dinner) date

Shehnaaz Chenia | Thursday 29 November 2007 | 15:51

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The Face-to-face encounter of course...thank goodness you didn't pull that face in your photo! Come on, don’t be daunted, after all; this is the best part. Nerves and butterflies needn’t be a bad thing, I’m sure there’s excitement in there too!

So how do you prepare for that first date? Don’t worry; our Date Doctor has already done the homework. So all you need do is have a look over the pointers below.

Make the effort.

It is important to make the effort when getting ready for your date. That’s not to say you’re expected to turn up looking like Naomi Campbell, just take time over your appearance. If you don’t normally wear makeup, we’re not suggesting you suddenly plaster it on (most men prefer the ‘natural’ look anyway), we’re merely saying even the little things count, so at least remember to brush your teeth!

Dress for the date.

Make sure you wear the appropriate clothing for the occasion. It sounds obvious but it’s a common mistake. So if you’re going bowling, leave that long red dress in the wardrobe!

Make sure you’re comfortable.

It’s important to feel comfortable on your date. Let’s say you’re going out for dinner, if you don’t usually wear stilettos and are likely to go flying, avoid the embarrassment by wearing shoes you feel more comfortable in; there is a wide variety of dainty flat shoes in all the shops.

Open up your body language.

Try to relax with your guy and make him feel relaxed too. Folding your arms and leaning away are just two of the negative body cues that you can give off, particularly when apprehensive.

Ask questions.

Remember, just as with your online messages to your dream man, you need to ask questions when he’s sitting in front of you. Take the conversation towards topics which you know he enjoys and ask him his opinions.

Avoid going ‘too deep’.

We all know how flattered we feel when someone is asking about us, but remember not to go too far and ask questions which may be too personal for a first date. ‘So why did your wife run off with your best mate?’ would be a great conversation terminator!

Maintain eye contact.

Make your date feel like the only person in the room by holding eye contact during conversation, particularly when he’s talking about himself. If you let your eyes wonder you risk making him feel as though he’s boring you, or worse, that you’d rather be anywhere else in the world!

So there you have it, a few handy hints to set you on your way on that all-important first date. Good luck!

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