By Jane Hoskyn | Wednesday 9 April | 11:39
"I fall in love too easily, I fall in love too fast," sang blue-eyed crooner Frank Sinatra. All too human, Frank. At least he got a decent song out of his bad habit, but for many of us it just means humiliation and heartache. Are you guilty of the fast-love habit? Take our quiz to find out.
1. You’re single, it’s Friday night and you feel like staying in with a DVD and a mug of hot chocolate. A voice inside your head says…
a. Yay for me-time! This is what life’s about.
b. Good idea, you deserve a night off. Get some beauty sleep and save your energy for socialising another time.
c. What’s wrong with you? It’s Friday! Go out, or you’ll be a sad old singleton forever.
2. When you’re out with female friends, what’s your attitude towards men?
a. They’re there to be laughed at and ogled.
b. They’re eye candy, but you don’t really want to pull when you’re out with your mates.
c. You’re always on the lookout for The One.
3. A workmate plucks up the courage to ask you out. He doesn’t exactly light your chemistry set, but he’s a nice guy. You…
a. Say no, of course. Why waste your time on someone you’re not into?
b. Agree to meet for a drink, but try not to get his hopes up.
c. Say yes immediately. You’re so flattered.
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4. You’re on a first date with a guy you met online. He offers to pay for dinner. You think…
a. Ugh, how lame. He obviously thinks you’re going to sleep with him.
b. Nice gesture, but you want to pay next time. If there is a next time.
c. You can barely contain your excitement. He must be really into you.
5. You weren’t keen at first, but you’ve had a lovely evening. You’re saying goodbye when he moves in for a kiss. You…
a. Offer him your cheek, say a brisk goodbye, and don’t reply when he texts you on the way home. You really can’t be bothered.
b. Kiss him, but not passionately. You need to think about where things go from here.
c. Melt into the snoggy moment. Somehow you’re bowled over by the romance of it all. You can’t wait to see him again.
6. At a party, a dishy male acquaintance spends the evening flirting with you. He asks you to spend the night. You…
a. Make your excuses and get a cab. There’s no way you’re going to be used as a bit of meat, even if he is gorgeous.
b. Give him the snog of his life, then dash home. You don’t want to spoil your chances by having sex now.
c. Spend the night. You’re not sure you want to, but this may be your only chance to keep him.
7. Your friend’s boyfriend is throwing a surprise party for her birthday. He’s inviting 50 of her friends and making a fabulous buffet, all in secret. You think…
a. Oh God, what a palaver. What if she fancies a quiet night in?
b. It’s very sweet, but a lot of work. Hope he pulls it off.
c. It’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever heard. If only someone would do that for you, your life would be complete.
8. You join a dating site and start scrolling through the profiles. What are you doing half an hour later?
a. Taking the laundry out. It’s more fun than schlepping through loads of photos of men you have nothing in common with.
b. Salivating over the hot photos. Yeah you know it should all be about what they say, but…
c. Bouncing with excitement after emailing a guy whose profile leapt out at you. You can’t wait to hear back from him.
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What your answers mean
Mostly A: You keep love at arm’s length
Bit cynical about romance, are we? There’s a lot to admire about your self-respect and your independent attitude to life, but you’re in danger of tarring all men with the same brush. They’re not all rubbish, you know. Love can happen with the right person, and sometimes you need to give a chap a chance before you know how you feel. Even so, better to be a happy singleton than an unhappy slave for love.
Mostly B: You can fall in love – but you don’t crave it
Lucky old you, with your level head and healthy attitude. You like men and you’re not afraid of commitment, but you’re also happy to stay single – and that self-respect will help to attract a chap who’s right for you. You’re willing to give a guy a chance, because you know that you can’t always tell the great ones at first date, let alone at first sight. But you’re also unwilling to drag out his hopes if it’s not working for you.
Mostly C: You’re a fool for love
Falling hard and fast may seem romantic (Sinatra’s not the only popster to squeeze a song out of it), but it makes you vulnerable to heart-break. Worse, it makes you look desperate and often drives men away when you’re just getting to know them. Stop craving love, and embrace the many other splendid things in life. You are a fully formed human being; you don’t need a partner to be complete.
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